How often do we try to make things happen in our lives, then become frustrated or disenchanted when those things don’t seem to come fast enough or they don’t seem to be significant enough? We want a successful career, a great body, a happy life, yet it’s never quite good enough nor does it come fast enough. We want to live life on a constant high with instant gratification. We build a grand plan and attempt to make life work at all costs, even if it means shoving a square peg into a round hole. If we push hard, remain persistent, get ahead and keep our nose to the grindstone, success will come!
For a long time, I thought that was the best way to succeed; the only way to succeed. I thought if I worked long, hard hours, went above and beyond to “do” more than everyone else that eventually the success, the paycheck, the big corporate title and the acknowledgement would all be mine. (more…)
As I was getting ready for bed tonight, I looked in the mirror and smiled. The smile was there because I’ve learned to love the reflection of the soul looking back at me. Once upon a time (a few years ago), I looked in the mirror and had nothing but bad things to say directly to that reflection:
“You’re too soft.”
“You can’t handle this.”
“You suck as a mother.”
“You’ll never make him happy.”
Looking back, it’s hard to believe that I (with the miraculous support team I call my Tribe) have gathered the ability and strength to address each of those lies, question the hell out of them, then turn them around into statements I now identify as my truth.
Do you ever come across individuals that seem to be generally pissed off about life? I do. Sometimes, I am simply in awe. It’s too hot; It’s too cold; It’s raining It’s snowing; I have a cold; I worked out too hard; I have too much junk in my basement.
The Goldilocks effect will never be found with these individuals. Why?
Why is it that some of us soar when we arise in the morning while others sit in their own personal hell day after day?
I may get a lot of scrutiny for saying so, but I believe Happiness Is a CHOICE. (more…)
“It is better to give than to receive”. How many times have we used that phrase in our lives? Do you genuinely believe it?
Since I can remember, I derived pleasure from making others happy. People-pleasing was easy for me and quite honestly, a way of life. Pleasing others came to life in a random act of kindness here and there or going that extra mile to attain the label of being “good “. It sounds somewhat harmless, doesn’t it? Make people happy, give them what they want. Give of yourself – it’s the right thing to do. (more…)
2014 was a year of self discovery. Enrolling in the Martha Beck Institute was an investment in me. Certainly, I’ve invested in “me” before, but this was a different sort of investment; an investment in my whole being (and well worth it!). I knew walking into training that I would want to become certified at the earliest opportunity possible in 2015. (more…)